RE: Hive-Naija Weekend Engagement #25 - "The Age Factor"

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From the bottom, THERES NO AGE TO ANYTHING IN LIFE. I think everybody knows that. Putting an unrealistic target on certain stages in life can put unnecessary pressure on the individual and make them fuxk up. It's okay to have a plan, not okay to have a deadline. Two VERY DIFFERENT THINGs. VERY DIFFERENT.

As much as everyone would say age is not a priority, it should be important. Don't go marrying someone insanely younger than you or vice versa. There is always a gray area Sha when the marriage works out but honestly, it's not a great idea in my opinion.

In the end, age is truly just a number. It doesn't determine anything, literally. Experiences are what makes us, not our age. So whether you choose to be with Methuselah or some fucking kid, the age doesn't matter, a whole of other factors play a very crucial role in the success of the relationship.

Eehn, what do I know about relationships 😂😂. I've only been in one, and it don't seem like another would be happening anytime soon.

Just find and marry your best friend Sha 😅



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Everyone says they married their best friend anyway .

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Everyone day lie bro 😂😂😂😂😂

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How u know??

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It's how it is. Everyone likes to portray some superficial non-existent happiness in their marriage when it's all for the gram

😅

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It is not , because you have witness or heard of pretend marriages online doesn't mean that everyone's marriage is a wreck o.

Omo marriage sweet when u are married to the right person, there will be challenges and issues even friend normally dey quarrel, it doesn't make them less happy.

So not everyone portray superficial happiness , some people ARE GENUINELY HAPPY.. biko ahhh

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Fairs

It was a bit of a satire oh, my statement. I couldn't possibly generalize my statement that every marriage is a wreck.

I'm not a Grinch. I like seeing people been happy, makes me happy.

But I get, and respect your point.

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In this fake life, every marriage is perfect and a role model until divorce hits.

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Exactly.

I never take social media love seriously Sha.

I've seen too many of how they eventually come out about abuse. Omo

Social media is deceptive

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Exactly, no one can teach me about marriage and I can't like mine based in someone else experience or guideline...

I just de pity people wey they read to many marriage counselling books...

Try applying it and see you you will fail.

Some are good and will enrich your understand but... Our experiences in marriage can never be thesame just like our faces.

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True

This wisdom you are spitting, I know deep down flesh and blood did not reveal this to you 😅

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I don marry for my before life, na him make.
Experience don set

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Big lie, best friend ni, best friend ke

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Na wetin dey trend now oo...me sef dey find female bestie like this sef🤣🤣

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I feel having deadline is important to one's growth in life. It's better if the deadline is a personal one.

Because goAls without a deadline would likely die from procrastination.

Eehn, what do I know about relationships 😂😂. I've only been in one, and it don't seem like another would be happening anytime soon.

I think we have a lot more things in common.

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Well you're right about the deadline thing.

During my uni days I only get serious when it's a day to go, so that makes sense.

I think we have a lot more things in common.

You wey be lord of the girls 🤣

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You wey be lord of the girls 🤣

Lol. The same guy that you call lord of the girls has not been in a relationship since 2018. 😅😂😅😂

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Na you choose to not be now, no be say them no plenty.

Two very different thing 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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    'Because goAls without a deadline would likely die from procrastination"

I have learnt 💥

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So you feel like there should be a deadline in marriage?

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Yeah it is a personal thing. Mostly for a guy. In my head, I have plans for the year I want to get married and I am working towards it to be personally ready before it gets to that time.

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And you haven't told me; the bride, nawa oh

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Even me, I don't know the bride. I am just working on myself mostly in building skills and finance.

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I am the bride uncle, get in the program 😆

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That deadline thing is too much pressure abeg. I've seen people that marry wrong because they felt they were too old and past the deadline they gave themselves. Marriage still scatter. It's just better to follow your heart and not compromise on that.

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Yeah creating goals and working towards them are important.

But i think with that plan you need to till have someone in mind?
What if you reach that age, then you start looking for the wife??

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Just find and marry your best friend Sha

This is very important oo
I have tasted and see and beleived. It has a way of curtailing some unnecessary misunderstanding in marriage .

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My sisters no marriage is perfect oo. We all working towards perfection.
For me, age matters a lot. If you as a lady marries an older man of maybe 10 years difference, that's still time but for a guy to marry a woman who is older, mmba nu. That one di too much

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Yes,I can marry someone older than me but with a reasonable age difference.

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Guys like us that have two female best friends. What do we do oh?

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See you; men are scum generation.

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Lol.. what's bad in having two female best friends. These girls have been with me since childhood oh. They are childhood friends as well.

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Omo my boyfriend no carry bestie bestie near me oh 😆 I know females, I no gree.

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That's why there needs to be boundaries. I am close to them but they know I have my boundaries. That's why I don't think I can marry anyone of them.

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Omo, boundaries only work when temptation hasn't come in play.

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Lol true. 😅😂

It all depends on how one can resist the urge to temptation then. It is best to run (avoid) away from scenarios that put one into it.

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You are not ready for any form of contest or drama🤣🤣

New to I am jealous, my good person no reach that end🤩

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You can't have 2 best sha... its good , better, best...

One is a good friend and the other a best friend

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Lol... Yeah I know that I can not be very close to both in the same way. But they both have the titles.

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Lol...just get ready to separate fights when both of them get to know that they are contesting for one handsome guy🤣. Of course, jealousy will come in, trust my gender🤩

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Lol.. they are not contesting anything oh. Biko 😅😂...

I did not even take the level to that point. And they know each other.

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😂😂😂😂 this cracked me up
This question always comes up in relationship program??
You can't love two persons at same time, one love must be greater check yourself
Whereas you can't marry the both

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Rightly said...

What can I do now that my best friend has ran away.

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He will come back

No fear.

I go put am for prayer 🙏

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That's why you will marry me bah because I am your best friend, you are welcome my love.

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the song playing in my head rn 😌

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Go away 😆 song way I no get, send it to me oh, lemme listen so we will rest.

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@stevenson7 you don see your wife already na

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Isn't God wonderful 😊

A whole khaleesi

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Na complete package God give you oh. @khaleesii weds @stevenson7

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😆 you know the matter; complete indeed but to marry me cost oh, last child.

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Just find and marry your best friend Sha 😅

Make bestfriend sha go hustle oo😂😂

I hear girls marry who's this ready

All your writeup makes sense sha

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