My neighbours and I
Greetings!
I’m the type of person who can stay 10 years in a compound without having issues with any neighbors, both far and close. It's not that I'm too secretive or living an excessively private life; I just appreciate certain boundaries to avoid potential issues.
I'm currently living in an old pattern of building undergoing some renovations. Everyone in the compound uses a shared toilet except me because my apartment has its own facilities. This allows me to live somewhat separately from the others, except when it comes to matters requiring general contribution like things like electricity or water.
Do we borrow things from each other?
To some extent, yes.
At this stage in my life, I don’t have everything I need, so I occasionally ask for help with things I lack. However, I do this very minimally. For instance, I would never borrow food items that would indicate hunger or desperation. I only seek items like electrical tools or a large cutlass when necessary. I'm very organized in my lifestyle, so I plan ahead for essential items. Oh yeah, my gas finishes sometimes unaware and I know how to go about covering up without even borrowing.
Do they borrow from me?
To a large extent, yes.
Though I live a private life, I am open to everyone. For example, I'm the only one with a generator in the compound, and you know what that means. My house is open for everyone, both in and outside the compound, to charge their phones whenever I run the generator. I understand how it feels to be met with a cold reception when seeking to charge a phone, so I never do that to anyone.
I used to have more spoons, but now I only have six left because I often give them away and don’t like to ask for them back. I frequently buy lighters and matches because I give them out, and they aren't returned. Honestly, I don't mind this; it's my way of being welcoming to my neighbors while maintaining my private life.
Is the bond okay? Do we sit, talk, and laugh?
This is where I have a little fault because I always seem busy, making it difficult for me to spend time sitting in someone's house and chatting for long hours. I know it's not ideal, but that's how it is. There is one neighbor who usually comes to my workspace whenever he isn't working, and I make an effort to give him his time too.
But this doesn’t mean I don’t interact with people. I do talk and laugh with them, but not for extended periods. Most of the children in the neighborhood are friendly with me because I engage with them, buy things for them, and even iron their school uniforms for free.
Also, I get invited to neighbours parties, and I make an effort to attend. If there wasn't some bond, I wouldn't have these opportunities.
So that’s how I am with my neighbors. Not too close, but close to some extent, always cautious of boundaries to avoid issues.
Thanks for reading.
This is my entry to Hiveghana prompt of the week
Better be close to your Neighbour, You don't know, one of their daughters might be ....
ok ok, let me stop there. heheheh
I understand that most time we like being private and all. The truth is that, if I find a person in the compound I am very close to, then I will stick to that person alone most time but that doesn't stop me from interacting with others.
Unfortunately, there's no lady in the compound. It's so bad eeeh!
Yeah, I get the point of sticking more to a close one.
Thank you for stopping by.
I don't have !BBH to tip
Okayyy, Mr Organised man.
I laughed when you said you don’t ask to sound desperate 🤣
That’s it, you have to maintain your composure even in hunger🤣
Yes ooo!
Even when my gas finishes at night, I rather stay hungry that night than to reduce my level by asking to borrow gas,😎
🤣🤣
The boundary part is necessary and very important because if you pass your boundary, you go see anyhow.
Yes ooo!
I don't like SEE FINISH in my life😅
Thank you babe
You're welcome
If neighbors are good, life will be good.
Yeah,
Good neighbours,
Good life
Thank you so much!
Most welcome.
Wow! bro, is good to be organized and plan ahead of something than waiting for that thing to be at high demands before we start seeking for it, people's need another to live life but in as that, we must mind the volume we get things from others, it will reduce dispute and keeps one's life peaceful.
Creating a healthy boundaries among our neighbors is important to avoid unnecessary dramas and see finish.
There is nothing beats a peaceful relationship between us and our neighbors.
#dreemerforlife
That's lovely of you. It's awesome to be there for your neighbors in the time of their need. You set a healthy relationship and satisfying boundaries.
#dreemerforlife
The part you talked about being careful with what you ask your neighbours for in order to not sound hungry or desperate reminded me of a situation I found myself in. A guy in a group for extracurricular activity which we’re both in (I’m a new member) tried to follow me home yesterday to collect food. I said I had no food but he suggested noodles. He kept pestering and I couldn’t really hide my disappointment.
If this is truly how you live, I respect that. It’s really noble. People no longer understand boundaries. We must be cautious to not discomfort others with our attitude but we should be nice as well. The key point here is find a balance. Be friendly but carry yourself in a respectful manner.
Really good post. Well done.
#dreemerforlife
Nice cohabitation with people is really amazing your neighbor is more like Family
#dreemerforlife#
It's good to have good communication and relationship with your neighbors because when there is emergency they will be there for you, just like you my current neighbor borrows from me and I give them little of my time.
#dreemerforlife
Keep up the good work. 👏🎵
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